I'm not a big fan of playing games in relationships, but there is some value in playing hard to get in the courting stage of a relationship. Like that elusive baseball card, making yourself a little scarce can increase your value. But don't overdo it!
From my experience it doesn't pay to overly keen when you're dating. Desperation has as much appeal as bad BO and is as easy to detect. It's better not to seem too eager; be a bit elusive and make yourself a catch.
Taking your time and not rushing things also gives you time to reflect on how you really feel about this person. Do you really want to take it to the next level?
Playing hard to get is more an art than a science. There are no hard and fast rules despite what the Vince Vaughn character in the movie Swingers might have thought. (BTW this is a great movie if you want to learn what not to do on the dating scene.)
Just use your intuition and play it the way you feel is best. You want to appear interested, but not overly anxious. Highly sexy, but still not sure. Open and approachable, but not easy to pin down. Whatever you do, don't be an overly flirtatious teaser.
And don't overdo it and keep your date dangling - they have feelings and are not just there to indulge your ego. If you overdo it, your date may decide that you are not interested in them, or are gay (or straight), or simply an arrogant loser.
By Charles Cuninghame
http://www.text-centric.com/
Charles Cuninghame met his wife online in 2005. He is one of Australia's most experienced website copywriters.
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