Guarding Against Emotional Abuse - 3 Strategies For Neutralizing the Effects

Emotional abuse is often more challenging to detect and identify than other types of abuse. There are no obvious marks on the body or physical wounds, yet the scars of emotional abuse run deep and are very damaging. Emotional abuse can manifest in different ways. Insults, criticism, controlling behaviors -- such as restricting your access to schooling, work, friends, family, or expecting you to "report" on your daily activities, can be emotional abuse. Demanding or withholding sex, or implying non-physical threats can also be emotionally abusive behavior. The result of the abuse is that the victim often feels worthless, incapable, and may even question his or her sanity. It isn't easy to reprogram the belief that you deserve that has been done to you - but it is possible. Here are 3 strategies for neutralizing the effects of verbal abuse:
1. Take very good care of yourself. Eat right, avoiding processed and sugary foods and sticking primarily with lean proteins, fresh fruit fruits and vegetables, and whole grains. Take vitamins and supplements if necessary. Most people can benefit from a food based multivitamin and fish oil, and your natural health care practitioner can recommend others particular to your health needs. Exercise regularly after checking with your doctor to determine the appropriate level of activity for you. Cardiovascular exercise is ideal for the purpose of elevating your mood and increasing positive body image. By doing all of these things, you are sending the message to yourself that you are worthy to be cared for.
2. Talk things out and spend time with those who love and support you. Friends and family are good for emotional support. Keep in mind, you need to reprogram the false messages your abuser delivered about you. The more you can saturate yourself in the truth, the easier it will be to believe it. Work through your emotions with a counselor, and work with a coach to inspire and encourage you to move forward making healthy choices.
3. Avoid contact with your emotional abuser whenever feasible. Ideally, you will sever all contact to facilitate your healing. If you absolutely must interact, like if you share children, stick closely to the topic of business you must discuss, and immediately disengage if the conversation turns personal or critical. Avoid defending yourself in any way and get off the phone or leave. Immediately call a friend or support person, or do something positive and affirming for yourself and your health.
By the way, what is holding you back from making the best choices to achieve the life you deserve?
For a free copy of my ebook, "Strategies For Escaping Emotional Abuse", click here: http://www.stoptoxicrelationships.com/gifts-strategiesforescapingemotionalabuse.html
Shannon Cook is a personal coach and resource guide who has written a number of informative articles and ebooks on the topic of toxic relationships and "difficult" divorces, including the physical, emotional, practical and relationship components.
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