How Can You Love Someone and Let Them Go?

Have you ever been in love with a man who didn't treat you well? Have you ever stayed just a minute too long in a relationship you had hoped would change ... and you're still waiting? Have you ever compromised your safety or feelings just to be accepted by a man? Are you still waiting on him to stop drinking ... to stop yelling ... abusing ... cheating ... lying ... hurting you?
Isn't it ironic that your dream became your worse nightmare? The love that at one time had been irresistible is now abusive and lacking in quality. Your love story is now a drudge story filled with angst and loneliness. You're unhappy in a relationship with a man who is not the man you thought you knew.
So where do you go from here or better yet, are you able to go from here? For millions of married women the choice to move along isn't an easy choice. A lot of women have to consider their children, finances, shelter, and ultimately an entire lifestyle change. The odds are over-whelming. But I believe the odds of staying are just as daunting.
Ask yourself if the rest of your life worth living in such misery or do you have every right to be happy again. It's understandable that you love your husband or boyfriend. And that letting him go was not part of the original plan. The happy ever after love story you grew up believing in didn't come with an alternate ending.
There's no road map for you to follow that tells you what to do after a divorce. This is unknown territory and the challenge is great because you have lived your life always knowing what to do - college, work, meet soul mate, marriage, have children and start your own family and then live happily ever after.
Great story but fortunately (and yes, I said fortunately) life doesn't work that way. People think that the fifty percent of marriages that end in divorce is a bad thing. Maybe it's a wakeup call to women and men that the road map we have been following is not everyone's journey. Maybe its bad advice given by a majority of people who believe that marriage, family, and structure is the answer to security but not happiness.
But having lived that advice you know differently. You know that happily ever after for you at this time in your life is just a dream. You're stuck loving a man who doesn't love you. Do you remember the saying, "If there's a will ... you'll find a way?" Now that is some good advice. If you strongly desire to let go of your relationship and create the life of your dreams, a way will be made for you but you have to believe, feel, and act your dream into existence.
What you don't know can hurt your relationship
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Felecia Townsend is a relationship enthusiast and personal coach. She has spent years learning the art of successful relationships and through her philanthropic writing is giving back to the community that has given her so much
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